RAPE at Gallaudet

Twelve years ago, People magazine ran the following article about RAPE at Gallaudet. In the climate of fear and intimidation that exists at Gallaudet, even today, and the DPS assaults on students during the protest, one has to wonder if any progress has been made. Are the students at Gallaudet protected? Are reports of Rape taken seriously now, whereas 12 years ago, they were routinely dismissed and covered up by the I.K. Jordan administration? Do today’s female students feel safe and secure from sexual assault on campus? The administrators mentioned in this article, specifically Carl Pramuk, & Dwight Benedict, are STILL at Gallaudet, and are part of the I. K. Jordan inner circle. Pramuk is Dean of Student Affairs, and Benedict, Manager of University Leases & Facilities. If students still do not feel safe and secure from assault, NOW is the time to come forward and have your story told.

People Magazine

Volume 41, number 23, pages 36-41.
June 20, 1994
By Mary H.J. Farrell

Download the pdf file here of full-color scan: www.gallyprotest.org/silent_screams.pdf

Silent screams: a People report on sexual assault at the nation’s only university for deaf students.
With its neo-Gothic buildings and sloping lawns, Gallaudet University is a green oasis amid the deteriorating row houses of its neighborhood in northeast Washington. More important, it is a sanctuary of another kind: It is the only university in the nation for students who are deaf. Said President Clinton at the school’s commencement exercises last month: “I used to say I believed in a place called Hope. Today I know the future of this country will be in good hands because of a place called Gallaudet.”

Some students — many of them women — are not so sure. When junior Jody Smith (not her real name) was a freshman, she says, she was raped in her dorm room by an acquaintance who had walked her home from a party. Smith later learned that her assailant had raped another woman at Gallaudet a year earlier. And a Gallaudet graduate student says she was the victim of two sexual assaults as an undergraduate: In 1987 she was sodomized by a student who came into her room, and in 1991 she was accosted on campus and groped by a group of three male students. She didn’t report the first incident. When she told university officials about the second attack, she says, the male students were told to attend a workshop on sexual harassment.

Sexual assault on a college campus is not exclusive to Gallaudet, of course. Using a combination of surveys and reported crime, the FBI estimates that one college woman in six will be a victim of rape or attempted rape during her college years. But in interviews over the last 15 months with more than 60 Gallaudet students, faculty, administrators and alumni, PEOPLE has documented a pattern of sexual assault on the 2,200-student campus that is disquietingly high. Maricar Marquez, 22, a May graduate who worked as an adviser to freshman women, says that eight of her close friends have been sexually attacked. Another freshman adviser, a 1991 sexual-assault victim who has comforted and counseled others, charges, “There is at least one rape a weekend in the freshman dorms.” (Gallaudet, however, reported only one rape in the 1991-92 school year — the latest available figures — to the federal government, as required by law.)

More troubling still, many sources interviewed by PEOPLE say the Gallaudet administration has either denied the problem or failed to deal with it effectively. “I have talked to many women who have been raped, assaulted and harassed,” says Allen Sussman, a professor of psychology and former dean of student affairs. “They would tell me that they were afraid to face the administration. Gallaudet has a history of covering up.” An administrator who, like many, asked not to be identified for fear of reprisal, agrees. “In many ways this is a sick, secret community,” he says. “It is time for the administration to put this issue out on the table, but they’re afraid if they do, students won’t come.”

According to Donna Ryan, a history professor at Gallaudet, the insularity of the deaf culture has made it hard for Gallaudet women in particular to come forward to tell their stories. “Part of the difficulty for deaf women in dealing with women’s issues like rape involves a fear of trashing the deaf
community,” she says. In many cases, the women are afraid of being put down by their fellow students for bringing shame upon the university. “The deaf community is small and close-knit,” says Denise Snyder, executive director of the D.C. Rape Crisis Center. “If you make a fuss at Gallaudet, you’ve closed a big door.”

I. King Jordan, 50, the university’s first deaf president, who has been in office since 1988, told PEOPLE that students have not approached him directly on the issue of sexual assault. (His interview, like many for this story, was conducted with the assistance of an interpreter trained in American Sign Language.) He denies, however, that victims have been discouraged from pursuing charges against their attackers. “I have never heard that there is an atmosphere of fear and intimidation at Gallaudet regarding this issue,” he says.

Furthermore, Jordan does not believe that Gallaudet should be singled out. “Sexual assault is a national problem. It exists at Georgetown, it exists at Harvard, and it exists here,” he says. Then he adds, “If a woman at Gallaudet faces sexual assault, it should not happen.”

Jordan’s response reflects widespread pride in an institution, founded in 1864, that is revered in the community of deaf and hard-of-hearing Americans. Gallaudet’s alumni hold many of the most prestigious positions in programs for deaf people around the country. For some, Gallaudet, which is 75 percent federally funded, is the only world in which deaf students feel empowered and in which they can live among peers who speak American Sign Language. (English is a second language for most students.) Explains Jody Smith: “Gallaudet means deaf friends, sorority life, a big campus with lots of deaf teachers.”

But within this community, many female students complain that they are treated as second-class citizens. “Deaf culture is about 20 years behind the times when it comes to women’s issues,” says Snyder. “The culture is still struggling to establish itself within the larger community, and women’s issues lag far behind.”

Many women would like to change that. “I’m a woman first,” says one victim. “And then I’m deaf.” Yet frustration over the school’s reluctance to deal with attacks on female students is tempered by a loyalty to the institution that gives all Gallaudet students a sense of community. Accordingly, most of the Gallaudet women who spoke to PEOPLE for this article asked that their names not be used. Three, however, did agree to talk on the record. Here are their stories.

A freshman frantically signed `no,’ but he wouldn’t stop

Before her freshman year at Gallaudet, Teresa Maxwell spent the spring semester of 1990 taking courses at the school’s satellite campus in northwest Washington. It was the first time away from home for Maxwell, then 18, who was brought up in Northern California by hearing parents and has been deaf since birth.

That April she met a freshman at a party on the main campus. He invited her to several other parties, and it was after one, she claims, that he raped her in her dorm room. “When he got on top of me, I said [signed and mouthed the word] no. I cried. He did it anyway,” says Maxwell. “When it was over I kicked him in the groin. He told me if I told anyone, he would make me suffer.”

Fearing retaliation from her attacker and worried that it would be hard to communicate to anyone what had happened, Maxwell went home for the summer without reporting the rape to the police. When she returned to Gallaudet that fall, she says, the alleged rapist began to stalk her and steal items from her room, including her extra room key. “I woke up one night and he was in my room trying to get in bed with me,” says Maxwell. “I was so scared.” She says he told her he had kissed her while she was sleeping.

Depressed and watching her grades drop, Maxwell complained about the stalking and thefts first to campus security and then to Carl Pramuk, the Gallaudet administrator who hears and screens complaints before they are presented to the school’s judicial board, a panel of students, faculty and staff. Maxwell says that both Pramuk and campus security officers told her that the charges would be hard to prove. She then reported the alleged rape as well, but according to Maxwell, Pramuk told her that the incident had happened too long ago to press charges. (Pramuk, citing confidentiality, would not comment to PEOPLE on this case or any other sexual assault case at the university. Maxwell’s parents and a close friend, all contacted by PEOPLE, confirm that she gave them the same version of the attacks.) “I did my best. I tried to get help,” she says. “The administration didn’t even try to help me.”

A victim’s complaint to the police is lost in translation

Katrina Mansell was a 23-year-old junior at Gallaudet when she was raped, she says, in a dorm room in May 1989. At the time, Mansell, raised in the Washington area as the only deaf child of hearing parents, was an SRA (Student Resident Assistant) assigned to help other students in her dorm. When another SRA, whom she trusted, asked her to study with him in his dorm one night, she agreed.

During a study break, Mansell used the bathroom in his room. When she tried to come out, she says, he blocked the door, forced her to disrobe and raped her on the floor of his bedroom. “I tried to push him away three or four times. He refused to listen to me saying, `No, no, no,’ ” says Mansell. Afterward he freaked out and said, `Oh no, I raped you. Please do not tell anyone about this.'”

After the assault, Mansell ran back to her room and took a long shower. “I felt so-o-o-o dirty,” she later explained to PEOPLE in a written account. The next day she confided in a friend, who insisted on taking her to the infirmary, where she was examined. Later, a campus security officer drove her to the D.C. police. The officer assigned to her case, Det. Robert Sweeney, took her to a nearby hospital, where she was examined again.

When she met with Sweeney the following afternoon, there was no interpreter present to help take her statement. Mansell says Sweeney asked her to type her own police report, which she did. Asking Wylie Myers, a security officer who had accompanied Mansell to the station that day, to interpret, Sweeney then told her that the case “wasn’t strong enough to consider.” But Mansell claims that Myers, who is not deaf and is not a trained interpreter, was unable to communicate her response effectively. Upset by the police department’s failure to provide for her legal right to an approved interpreter, Mansell says, “I felt like I was raped twice.” (Sweeney, now retired, could not be located for comment.

Undaunted, Mansell took her complaint to Pramuk, who referred it to the campus administrative board. Mansell was granted a hearing. A student who witnessed the proceedings and asked not to be identified claims that when the accused testified, he more or less admitted he attacked Mansell. “He said, `Maybe she said no, but I didn’t see it,’ ” says the student. “He said, `Maybe I made a mistake.’ ” Despite his admission, he was not charged. “I was really devastated and surprised when I lost the case,” says Mansell. “The verdict said I did not use the word `force,’ even though I described in detail what he had done to me.” Pramuk will not comment on the outcome. By school regulation, board members cannot discuss the case.

A Gallaudet class trip to Puerto Rico turns violent

Roberta Gage, 24, and her twin sister, Rebecca, were born deaf to hearing parents. After attending a high school for deaf youths in Texas, the sisters were admitted in 1988 to Gallaudet, where they enjoyed being part of its supportive society. All that changed in 1992.

That March, Roberta — without Rebecca — went on a trip to Puerto Rico during spring break with 60 other Gallaudet students. On the last night, Gage and a group of three friends went dancing. During the evening, the group split up, leaving Gage with Ricky Perry, then 21 and a junior. Gage says she had several drinks that night and apparently passed out. “When I woke up, I was at the hospital,” she says. “I was confused. A friend explained to me that I had been raped by Ricky. I cried and was in shock for what he did to me.”

In fact the attack had been witnessed by a group of students from a balcony overlooking the beach. Saul Roman, a food-and-banquet manager at La Concha Hotel, where they were staying, also saw the attack. “Both of them were really drunk. He was trying to rape her, and he dragged her all over the beach,” Roman told PEOPLE last year. “When her friends understood what was going on, they got to the beach and started screaming and yelling. They took her to her room and called an ambulance. She was bleeding from her head.”

Gage was taken to the Puerto Rico Medical Center, where she was examined and released. After Gage and two eyewitnesses gave their testimony to police, Perry was charged with rape. The charges were dismissed when a judge said there was no evidence of semen or penetration. Perry was allowed to return to Gallaudet.

After spending a week at home in Texas, Gage returned to school, where she pursued rape charges with the campus judicial board. “I felt I had to press charges out of duty,” says Gage. “Everyone knew about it, and I was angry.” She showed the panel pictures of herself taken after the attack. In addition, several eyewitnesses testified on her behalf, and three other Gallaudet students told the board that Perry had made unwanted sexual advances to them during the week in Puerto Rico. The board’s verdict: The evidence against Perry was insufficient — case dismissed. (Ricky Perry, contacted this month by PEOPLE, answered in writing, saying, “No comment. I’m no Mike Tyson.”

Gage appealed the decision to Dwight Benedict, director of Student Life. His reply was typical, says Gage, of Gallaudet administrators’ handling of the sexual assault issue.

“Dear Roberta,” Benedict wrote in May 1992, “I had reviewed this case and your appeal carefully and throughly [sic], and . . . decided to affirm the decision of the Administrative Board.

“It is with hopes that you will be able to put this incident behind you and continue to work toward your degree here at Gallaudet.

“Have a great summer!”

In the last year, though — and notably since PEOPLE began reporting this story — Gallaudet may have begun to take the issue of campus rape more seriously. Professor Sussman agrees that the university is beginning to take some steps toward change but worries about the motivation. “They are only responding now because they are cornered,” he says.

“We truly believe we’ve done our very best,” counters Benedict. “We put together a task force on sexual assault just last year.” Organized in July, the task force is still in the process of coming up with a comprehensive policy on sexual assault for the next group of incoming freshmen. It is required by federal law.

[Photo caption:] “The attitude of the administration in its handling of acquaintance rape has been antediluvian,” says Gallaudet professor Allen Sussman. “Women have been afraid to press charges.”

[Photo caption:] Using American Sign Language, assault victims (from left) Katrina Mansell, Teresa Maxwell and Roberta Gage express the words “rape,” “power” and “harassment.”

[Photo caption:] Mansell says she was raped in 1989 in the dorm behind her. At left, a note she wrote to herself after the attack.
[Photo caption:] Maxwell, happy at her graduation in May, still feels scarred by the 1990 attack. “I need more time to get over this,” she says.
[Photo caption:] At last month’s graduation, President Clinton tried his hand at signing with Gallaudet president I. King Jordan.
[Photo caption:] “When I was told nothing could be done, I was really upset,” says Roberta Gage (with her cat Silver). But like other women, she remains loyal to Gallaudet’s goals.

[End article]

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24 thoughts on “RAPE at Gallaudet

  1. Updated result: This year, 2 rapes.

    Conclusion: one rapist kicked out of GU for at least 2 years.

    Second rapist suspended 5 years from play sports, however, still a student on Gallaudet campus.

    Updated result: One domestic violence abuser.

    Conclusion: Slap on the wrist: attend anger management class online, pay back what money was stolen from the victim/survivor, and suspend from all of the activities. WAS NOT kicked out.

    From that conclusion, the abuser/student violated multiple times by hack in Gallaudet , Facebook, and yahoo email servers that victim/survivor had, harass/stalk the victim/survivor, and stole victim/survivor’s money by forge her name to get money out of the bank.

    As of today, the abuser/still a Gallaudet student, violated 10 total of times on Civil Protection Order issued through D.C. court system between August 2010 and present. She IS still a student. DPS did nothing. Dwight Benedict instructed the victim/survivor to tell the whistleblower to “shut up” literally and say the whistleblower made victim/survivor look bad NOT the abuser. Please. OH PLEASE! Literally, Gallaudet is allowing abusers to get what they want and remain power on the campus while victims/survivors are suffering.

    That victim/survivor in the 5 years relationship with the abuser included:

    -7 out of 10 broken fingers
    -Stabbed on her shoulder, told her to remove the stitches HERSELF not wanting people to know what abuser did to her.
    -Damaged her two tooth
    -Choked her several times
    -Hit her head several times, losing 30 percent vision in last 3 years since she has usher’s syndrome.
    -Bullied her
    -Hacked in her email servers to stalk and check on her.
    -Made abuser’s two sons to hit the victim/survivor with toys, rods, or anything.
    -Many more.

    Read and Weep. We are not safe on the Gallaudet campus.

  2. Updated result: This year, 2 rapes.

    Conclusion: one rapist kicked out of Gallaudet for at least 2 years.

    Second rapist suspended 5 years from play sports, however, still a student on Gallaudet campus.

    Updated result: One domestic violence abuser.

    Conclusion: Slap on the wrist: attend anger management class online, pay back what money was stolen from the victim/survivor, and suspend from all of the activities. WAS NOT kicked out.

    From that conclusion, the abuser/student violated multiple times by hack in Gallaudet , Facebook, and yahoo email servers that victim/survivor had, harass/stalk the victim/survivor, and stole victim/survivor’s money by forge her name to get money out of the bank.

    As of today, the abuser/still a Gallaudet student, violated 10 total of times on Civil Protection Order issued through D.C. court system between August 2010 and present. She IS still a student. DPS did nothing. Dwight Benedict instructed the victim/survivor to tell the whistleblower to “shut up” literally and say the whistleblower made victim/survivor look bad NOT the abuser. Please. OH PLEASE! Literally, Gallaudet is allowing abusers to get what they want and remain power on the campus while victims/survivors are suffering.

    That victim/survivor in the 5 years relationship with the abuser included:

    -7 out of 10 broken fingers
    -Stabbed on her shoulder, told her to remove the stitches HERSELF not wanting people to know what abuser did to her.
    -Damaged her two tooth
    -Choked her several times
    -Hit her head several times, losing 30 percent vision in last 3 years since she has usher’s syndrome.
    -Bullied her
    -Hacked in her email servers to stalk and check on her.
    -Made abuser’s two sons to hit the victim/survivor with toys, rods, or anything.
    -Many more.

    Read and Weep. We are not safe on the Gallaudet campus.

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  4. Teresa Maxwell is a liar! She got hurt in a a relationship so she falsely makes up a rape story. What a bullshit LIAR! If she doesn’t like co-workers and cannot get them fired with her lies, she will make their work environment so horrible that they quit. I am just happy to say that this ‘ICE QUEEN’ is a royal b***h! I agree with you fully Cy. A naive young lady who became a full blown evil woman in her lies. I can’t believe she is allowed to work with children!

  5. The rational thinking is leaving this issue after you put in the false information in this thread. For EX: Carl Pramuk, Assistant Dean of tludent Affairs is NOT Kappa Gamma memeber. Thank to the people who put in the false information by not doing their homework and invest some moment in the critcal thinking. This problem is that too many people use blog.com as credible source. The real problem is the process in the ADM’s chain order. Also I notice the people withhold their name back to sign up their writing tend to accuss falsely and put in wrong informations. To be the real person., put in your full name which will increase your crediblity.
    I am not saying that rape is one of OK, I am all-the-way against the rape actions. But you cannot deny that alcohol is one of the factors of the raping actions. To overcome the raping problem, you must to be more credible, and unite all of us and talk it out and educate. Not attack each other and degrade the sex genders. Thanks.

  6. Allison-who the fuck are you? i haven ever met a person named Allisoj except for Allison Snow through a friend. Fuvk ya off, you’ve got a wrong person, that’s for sure. and what you said was definitely inaccurate, i meant 100% inaccurate. Why don’t you go ask Robert Wienstock, Carl Pramuk, Joe Ploeger, etc..they will give you some answers-they should because this is an ancient history to them. Again, Allison, fuck ya off.

  7. What is your beef with the Kappa Gamma fraternity? I’m sick and tired of reading negativity speared at the Kappa Gamma fraternity in this blog and other blogs. If you have issues with this particular frat, I suggest you to keep it to yourself or share with others through other avenues, not through comment boxes! Really!
    I’m finding your “pointing fingers” card to be utterly ridiculous! Project your anger at the people in their positions (whether Gallaudet Judicial Affairs, DPS, or Student Affairs) but do NOT bring up their fraternities or sororities ties ever again!

  8. Teresa Maxwell is a great liar who accused a deaf rapist at Gallaudet. She later admitted that she was never raped because she was angry at him for dumping her after one-week dating to see another woman. SHAME ON YOU, TERESA!

  9. I was urged to read this article. Cy-fuck ya off. I don’t appreciate your response regarding a certain woman. It is me whom you doubt so much because you have grudges against me since 3 of us (Tina Jo, Teri, and I) found out it was you all along who played on Ridorlive.com last summer.

    Cy-you have no fuckin’ idea what it was like to raped, stalked-and yet you had nerves to doubt in someone. all i can say is, you have no fuckin, fuckin idea. i have nothing to say to you because you are full of shit stereotyping to whoever you dislike. thats so TYPICAL of you, really. Be sensitive to women or men who are a victim of domestic violence, rape, and many more. No wonder you are not a Gandi-i wouldnt consider you a good person at all.

    Teresa

  10. Hi Cyn,

    I have to disagree. Just because a woman might sleep around does not automatically mean that a rape experience of hers should be doubted. Guys sleep around all the time but it’s always the women who are picked at and painted as a “slut”, even by other women.

    Nonetheless, if it was rape or not… The women should recieve the care she deserves. Did you read the link i provided? The girl ended up in a mental ward for 60 hours when she demanded to have counselling to help her heal over this experience for god’s sake! That’s just not right at all.

    Also the idea that if two people are drunk and one says no but the other one is too drunk to think rationally and rapes her anyways, means just that the the rapist was drunk, thus should not have to deal with the consquences. That’s a dangerous way of thinking. Really. Lots of men [and women] get drunk out of their brains, yet they don’t resort to raping people.

    I have had one of these experiences, where i got too drunk at a party, and was raped by a drunk man. I have no memory of it at all, thankfully, but my friends say that afterwards I was crying and freaking out over this. The sad thing is that once i sobered up, i did not realize what happened to me was a bad thing because everyone just thought these sort of things like “Oh you were drunk, you fucked up!” I was branded as a “slut” for passing out at a party and being raped by a person. How wrong is this? I only began to realize how serious this was and the fact that i was, indeed, raped, after a couple years later when i noticed a pattern of this man who did that to me, was doing it to a girl at nearly every party he attended. My sister almost had the same thing happen to her by this man but luckily she woke up and ran out of the bedroom and locked herself in the bathroom until the man left her alone. The sad thing is that to this day, nobody ever punished this man. He probably thinks he never did anything morally wrong. Because so many people tend to say the girls should have never gotten that drunk to pass out and be put in a bedroom afterall….

    Anyway, yeah i know all univerisites have the same problem, BUT do they deal with the rape cases as badly as Gallaudet does? Do they just cover it up and not provide appropriate care fo the victims? That is what makes me nervous. I’ll make sure to go to the police and not the administration if that ever happened to me.. but of course i’d do everything I could to stay away from suspicious people and not get too drunk. That’s common sense, but sometimes people mess up and things happen, it does not mean they deserved what happened or that the incident is not something that should be chalked up as “well she should have not gone with that guy or she should have not gotten drunk…” Because that sort of thing just says that she deserves it and that’s a horrible thing to say.

  11. I covered that story as well earlier this year in my 3-part series blog in April 2006.
    http://kokonutpundits.blogspot.com/2006/03/deaf-residential-schools-a_114255214046396044.html

    http://kokonutpundits.blogspot.com/2006/03/deaf-residential-schools-and-other_26.html

    http://kokonutpundits.blogspot.com/2006/04/deaf-residential-schools-and-other_02.html

    I recognized this as a serious problem at Gallaudet, but not just at the administration level but down the chain. Yet when I brought this up, I was attacked left and right for “attacking” Gallaudet university.

    http://deafness.about.com/b/a/255512.htm
    Read the comments – http://deafness.wpadmin.about.com/?comments_popup=255512#comment-16

    And seeing the irony that one month later, nearly everyone was attacking Gallaudet.

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  13. Cy,

    That article explains clearly that those three women are the ones who agreed to go public. Can you imagine how many women were raped that were afraid to go public?

    Please don’t focus all the attention on three women. There are dozens or even hundreds of women affected, because the administration at Gallaudet treats deaf people like second-class citizens.

    On top of that, I’m offended that you would try to focus on one in order to try to minimize the problem.

    Also, give the People writer some credit for being an investigative journalist who checks her facts. Those three women would not have had their stories printed unless they could demonstrate to the writer that they had good evidence to back them up.

  14. Julie,
    I know this certain lady personally. I question if she was truly raped or just pissed off at the guy and acted out of revenge. The 2 other girls, I believe. The one I know WAS naive. She did not have much experience with guys, and the guy who raped her had a reputation for low opinion of women, but she apparently was naive enough not to anticipate what would happen if she entered his room. Any other girl would decline his invitation. That certainly did not excuse him…I did say it was unfortunate she was so naive. I stand by my statement about Roberta Gage. I was a former Gallaudet student and I HAD ended up next to a guy I did not know and I could NOT say whether it was consensual because I did NOT remember therefore I did not report. However, I DO wish I did report ONE… I understood how the girls felt because I felt the same….intense embarrassment for my own stupdity in getting myself in that situation. I was not drunk at all but that guy came to my room every night for almost a year begging, harassing, wooing me until I gave in. Like Katrina, I stood in a very hot shower wishing to wash away all the filth. Although it was consensual, it felt like rape nonetheless because he harrassed me until I gave in just to get him away. My roommate encouraged me to report him but I told him I let him come in, but she thought harrassment borders on rape…but knowing the interpretations of the law, being a government major myself, I knew there was no case. So I never reported. I later found out he did the same to several other girls. I was just too happy to have him keep away from me once he got what he wanted. Looking back, as a grown woman and a mother, I wish I had the strength and experience I have now to haul his ass to the police. No, wish I had the streghth and experience to tell him to get lost or else I’d report him – enough to scare him away. I was only a little kid back then at 17.

    So I was there and I know. I can believe two of them in the People story but one, sorry, but I don’t.

  15. I also want to mention that many women have been also psychologically and spiritually raped if not physically. I lived in 80’s and early 90’s era myself to know how this almost always happen for almost any woman to be called a slut, sleazy, all that. Many older guys now in their late 40’s and 50’s are really quilty, the worst ones are Kappa Gamma guys at the university.

    Later in late 90’s as an employee full time at the university, I sat in one of stalls and found scribblings of men names all over on the back of door.. those who are not to be trusted. It is not quite right thing to do but on that day I started to realize, that is good how women had found ways to fight back male chauvism like this.

    I believe most men in later 90’s started to become more social aware and sensitive, it did get better and continue to get better nowadays. I also think many of these old guys are very much aware and improved too. I hope I am right.

    Recommendation for guys who feel obliged for their mistake in the past, donate money to domestic violence program, teach their sons to be respectful to women, DO share of domestic works, and if they still feel obliged, become more actively involved in helping raise funds for domestic violence programs.

    If they happen did really wrongfully date rape in the past, I am wondering if sending a letter of apology or meeting their ex girlfriends and ex dates to apologize would be good thing to do? Will this pose legal risk? Just wondering.

    I am saying these things because I know one man who donated a lot of money to a domestic program to try to forgive himself for what he did in the past.

    Anne Marie

  16. thanks, Julie – you took the words right out of my mouth.

    call me old fashioned, but in my day, ALL rape was wrong, including acquiantance rape. Have women of today become so accustomed to rape that they have now taken to saying it’s okay, in certain instances? God help us…. To me, there is NO ‘degrees’ of rape, one degree being any less horrendous than any other degree. All rape is equally criminal.

  17. There is no excuse for rape. Drinking or use of drugs are tools perpetrators use or take advantage of to rape. Sex is consensual meaning both partners agree to get involved sexually. If one is drugged or drunk, then it is not consensual. If one says no, then it is not consensual. Cy, it is not about using your judgement. It is about creating zero tolerance for sexual assault 24/7. Zero tolerance also means the perpetrators are held accountable for their crimes. Until the zero tolerance policy is implemented, the victim blaming such as “she slept with lots of guys” continue to perpetrate in our society. Once again, there is NO EXCUSE for rape.

  18. Ricky Perry was not drunk but buzzed when he raped Roberta Gage. He stayed up all night defending himself in front of other students in Puerto Rico. Some girls put Roberta in the shower basin to clean her out of sand which was a mistake because it wiped out all the evidence.

  19. People Weekly
    July 11, 1994, page 4
    Letters to the editor

    MAIL

    GALLAUDET UNIVERSITY

    As a Gallaudet University alumna, I am not surprised about the cover-ups. They had been going on for many years before I entered Gallaudet and have continued since I graduated. I believe the cover-ups continue to happen because the deaf community is small–everybody knows everyone–and there is a fear of shame and rejection. Regardless, the victims must think of themselves first as women, empower themselves, and bring the rapists to justice and let the cards fall where they may. My hope is that the past victims, who may be suffering the consequences in silence, will see this, step forward to give support to the current victims and heal themselves as well.
    • ANONYMOUS

    I find it appalling that the administration at Gallaudet University has done nothing to investigate and stop the attacks on women at the institution after years of complaints. Turning one’s head does not mean there is not a problem. In fact, they are discovering the problem multiplies. As to Rick Perry’s response to PEOPLE’s inquiry regarding his assault on Miss Gage, “No comment. I’m not Mike Tyson.” Evidently, he is.
    • KELLY HUNDSRUCKER, Houston

    It’s a shame that the girls on campus are not being “heard” loud enough! Unfortunately, the deaf (if they are) boys can’t or won’t hear the word “no.” I bet they would if you were to bite or even kick them instead of signing no. Just a little advice for the girls. If you’re going to a party and you don’t want to be assaulted, stay with your friends, don’t go out alone.
    • SUSAN ROBINSON, Long Beach, Calif.

    The article “Silent Screams” brought a long-standing problem to public attention. It’s hard to believe that Dr. King Jordan said, “I have never heard that there is an atmosphere of fear and intimidation at Gallaudet regarding this issue.” I wrote to Dr. Jordan and the board of trustees in 1988. It was a problem when I was a student there between 1985 and 1988, and a member of the staff continued to stalk me until last year. I finally went to the police in April 1993. It stopped after the police questioned the person. I hope your article encourages other “silent” victims to come forward. I shouldn’t have waited so long to report it.
    • NAME WITHHELD

    What disgusts me most about the rapes of these women at Gallaudet is the lack of response from the male figures in their lives. Where were the fathers, brothers or uncles of these girls? Once justice became unavailable , these men should have been there administering some justice of their own!
    • DARCY POTESTIVO, Frederick, Md.

    My heart goes out to those female victims. Sexual harassment shouldn’t happen anywhere, period. But it does happen everywhere, including universities. Gallaudet should not be singled out for failing to prevent or produce desirable consequences in 100 percent of sexual harassment incidents. Being an alumna and a former freshman adviser, I have seen firsthand how well programs at Gallaudet worked to curtail such incidents. The statement “there is at least one rape a weekend” does not reflect my experience as an adviser–or as a student–at all.
    • DEBRA L. COLE, Seabrook, Md.

  20. Zoe, It’s me, Cy. Don’t be afraid. It happens at all colleges and universities. It is all about using your best judgment about who you hang around with. One of the 3 women (2 of which I personally know) is known to be the party girl and slept around which I am certain why her accusation of rape is doubted..,As for one, I heard….she was naive. This guy was known to look down on women and mistreat them and yet she went into his room. Tsk. Poor judgment on her part and large part of it is due to her own naviety. It was unfortunate. As for Roberta Gage – BOTH were drunk. Most courts would dismiss charges against the guy if both parties were drunk. She did not remember and the only witnesses were those on the balcony….when a girl drinks and passes out, she can only hope her friends watch out for her but unfortunately in her case, her friends werent around. She used bad judgment when she drank to excess and passed out. That does not excuse the guy’s actions but like I said, it was BOTH of them that were drunk, so it is safe to say, like her, he didn’t remember either. Therefore both were at fault – her for getting drunk witout protection from her friends and him for the same…his friends werent around to keep him in line either.

    And MOST college, if you care to research, handle rape cases pretty much the SAME way Gallaudet does – sweep them under the rug. Gallaudet in fact is not unique. BEST report rape to the POLICE, not university. If the guy is over 18, he is adult, therefore the female can call police and report the rape. Don’t bother reporting to the university – they will not do anything.

    Anyway, Zoe, Just use your best judgment as you always do everywhere you go!

  21. Favoritism was the only reason why Ricky Perry, a Kappa Gamma member, got away with it, and to make it far worse, the whole judicial board process was already set up, even before Roberta Gage and several eyewitneses testified against him in a make-believe, student-run courtroom which is probably illegal at the time. Dwight Benedict, the Dean of Student Affairs, Carl Pramuk, Assistant Dean of Student Affairs, Paul Rutowski, staff of the Student Affairs department, and some student judicial board members (including Jeff Bravin) are members of the so-called Kappa Gamma fraternity. Believe it or not, some of them are still working on the Gallaudet University campus, and some others are working in Deaf residential schools across the country. Such is Deaf life!

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